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New Year’s Goals, Extremes and Being Medium

When we make New Year’s goals, we’re often inclined to lean towards one extreme:

Create a new life and leave the old one behind.

Express our “good” qualities, and repress our “bad” ones.

Make plans to create the perfect _____________, and symbolically, or literally burn up the past versions that didn’t work.

When after a few weeks, or months, our goals backfire, or lose momentum, perhaps it’s because we forgot to take into account life’s natural polarities that pull us back and forth, and often plop us for a long time in the transitional middle.


In the last 24 hours, one of my friends gave birth to a baby girl while another lost her 80+ year-old dad.

So much joy and sadness all in one day.

Because that’s how life can be.

Full of polarities and the places in between.

The times before the birth and the death were much longer than these dramatic events, but the extremes are what we hope for, and what we dread.


As you map out your Big Vision for 2018, make space for the polarities of life:

Incorporate structure and flow.

Expect success and failure.

Plan for flourishing and fallow times.

Embrace the power of your “good” and “bad” qualities.

And anticipate periods of transition, ambiguity, and medium-ness.


When you take one of your Big Vision goals for 2018 out and hold it up to the light, notice if you are pushing a little too hard towards one extreme.

Think about what you will do when life naturally pushes you back in the other direction, or takes you to somewhere in the middle.

Adapt your plans to account for the natural bounce back and forth between polarities and for long periods of being medium.


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What if you could be self-promotional and be of service?

Green means go by Britt Bravo

One of the themes that stood out for me from your responses to last week’s Calling All Healers survey was the resistance to self-promotion:

“Social media is an obstacle because I resist it. It’s a time sink and feels self-promotional.”

“Sometimes it’s challenging for me to promote myself.”

“It can be challenging to balance out the ‘self-promotion’ aspect that seems like there is a lot of for myself/business”

At first, I was surprised that this was an obstacle, but then I realized it totally makes sense. If you are a solopreneur who is promoting your individual, personal, and sometimes hands-on and face-to-face services, it can feel vulnerable to say: I’m the one who can help you.

Also, if you’re a healer, you may tend towards taking care of others, thinking about others’ needs before your own, and being of service. Directing attention towards you may feel uncomfortable, unnatural, or even “wrong.”

But what if you could do both: be self-promotional and be of service? To do so may require you to look at your beliefs:

1. Do you believe in yourself and what you’re offering?

If you don’t believe that you can help someone, well then, yes, it’s going to feel pretty icky to put a spotlight on your work because deep down you believe that their hiring you would be a bad idea. Post something by your computer so that when you sit down to work on marketing stuff, you remember how your work has changed lives (e.g. notes/testimonials/photos from clients you’ve helped).

2. Do you believe that telling people about your work makes the world a better place?

A core value of many healers is to “be a force for positive change,” or to “improve people’s lives,” but if someone who needs your help doesn’t know about your work, how can you improve their life? When you are feeling resistant to promoting your work, imagine one of your clients before they came to you, lying in bed and in some kind of pain or suffering and thinking, “Who can help me?” Make it easy for the people who need your help to find you. Self-promotion is part of your “mission” in the world as a healer.

3. Do you believe how you self-promote can be a form of healing?

Every tweet, Facebook update, Instagram photo, YouTube video, e-news issue, blog post, webinar, advertisement, interview, and promotional event can make someone’s life better. It’s possible for all of those things to be beautiful, or inspiring. It’s possible for all of those things to help someone solve a problem, learn something about themselves,  laugh, or feel a powerful emotion. And it’s possible for all of those things to help someone find you after they’ve searched and searched for healing help.

When a person is unwell physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually, they may not have all of their usual resources to figure out and find what they need to feel better. One of your jobs as a healer is to make it easier for people who are suffering to find you.

Believe in yourself and what you’re offering.

Believe that telling people about your work makes the world a better place.

Believe how you self-promote can be a form of healing.

Self-promotion of your healing work IS a form of service.

Please take my anonymous 10-question Calling All Healers survey. I want to learn about your Big Vision for your healing work in the world, what comes easily, and what your challenges are.

Image: “Green Means Go” by me.

Calling all healers


Since the election, when I’ve been thinking about how to best be of service during this time, I’ve heard a little voice in my head say, “Help the healers.”

At first, this didn’t make sense to me, and then I thought about how divided we are as a nation. How the election has caused some people to lose friends and family members. How high stress levels are. We need healers, people who excel at making people and things whole again, more than ever.

The word “heal” comes from the Old English word hælan, to, “cure; save; make whole, sound and well.” If you consider your work to be healing (e.g. alternative medicine, art, bodywork, coaching, counseling, environmental, mediation, meditation, nonprofit, religious, social work, spiritual, teaching, therapy, western medicine, writing, yoga), I’d love it if you would take my anonymous 10-question Calling All Healers survey. I want to learn about your Big Vision for your healing work in the world, about what comes easily, and what your challenges are.

If you know of other healers who might be willing to take the survey, please pass it on to them.

Thank you!

P.S. If you’re a healer, you might like a post I wrote last summer, 7 Social Media and Online Marketing Tips for Healers.

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Big Vision Love Day: Pay What You Can Feb 10


I woke up yesterday feeling like my heart was shrinking. Something about witnessing the repeated acts of selfishness, unkindness, intolerance and hate in the news and on social media was making me feel small, powerless, and contracted.

And then a video of someone bringing gifts to young people in a shelter for homeless LGBTQ youth popped up on in my Facebook feed, and I felt my heart grow a little larger. It was as if I needed to be reminded that acts of compassion are still possible and that the power of love and kindness is real.

So, I would like to offer you a gift.

Being confused, stuck, or in transition around your work in the world, can be painful and financially stressful. Sometimes all it takes is one hour talking with someone to see the beginning of the path ahead, but you just can’t afford it when you need it the most.

On Big Vision Love Day, Friday, February 10, 2017, when you purchase a one-hour Big Vision Mentoring session, you’ll have the option to pay-what-you-can. Your session is non-refundable, but you can use it any time. It never expires. You can find more information on my Big Vision Mentoring page. I wish I could offer this for a month, like I did last year, but my schedule won’t allow me to serve the number of people who signed up last year.

If you feel like talking with me for an hour would help you get unstuck on your Big Vision journey towards your work in the world, please don’t hesitate to ask for help.

What is a gift you can give to bring a little love and kindness to someone today?

How to Communicate Your Hard to Explain Work


If you’re a Big Visionary, you’re able to imagine a different future before everyone else. You’re an innovator. A changemaker. You might also be spiritually inclined. Whatever kind of Big Visionary you are, finding language to describe your work that is ahead of the curve, or that feels beyond words can be a challenge.

If you’re having trouble communicating what you do in a clear, concise way, here is a 7-step process I use with clients that you can try on your own:

1. Talk

Have someone interview you about your work. There is something about talking, rather than writing about your work that can free you to speak authentically, passionately and clearly about it.

2. Record

Record your call with a program like ecamm Call Recorder for Skype, or Zoom, or your face-to-face conversation with an app like Supernote.

Your interviewer can ask things like:

  • What do you do?
  • Who do you work with?
  • Where do you work?
  • Why do you do this work?
  • How do you do this work?
  • How do people benefit from this work?

As well as any other questions they might have.

3. Transcribe

Transcribe the recording of your interview. I recommend you do this yourself, rather than having someone else do it. As you type what you’re listening to, you’ll notice when you sound particularly passionate, clear and resonant. Bold those parts as you go.

4. Highlight

Once it’s all transcribed, print it out, and let it sit for a day, or two. When you go back to it, highlight all of the parts that jump out as truly capturing your work.

5. Collage your copy

In the digital version of your transcript, cut out all of the words, phrases, paragraphs and ideas you highlighted in your printed version into a second document. Here’s where you’re going to do what I like to call “collage copywriting.” Move all of those words, phrases, paragraphs and ideas around to create the most concise description possible of your work.

6. Read it out loud

Once you’ve pulled together a solid first draft of your piece, read it aloud. When we read to ourselves, we sometimes unconsciously fill in words and ideas that aren’t actually on the page. Reading aloud will help you notice places where the phrasing is awkward, the sentences are too long, or when you tune out. Go back in and fine-tune these areas.

7. Share it with your ideal audience

Find a person, or people who are like the kinds of people you want to work with and serve. Ask them to give you feedback on what you’ve written. You can even ask them versions of the same questions you were asked during your interview to see if they truly understand what you’re trying to say:

  • What do I do?
  • Who do I work with?
  • Where do I work?
  • Why do I do this work?
  • How do I do this work?
  • How do people benefit from this work?

If there are places where they’re still confused, go back in and do another round of edits. If they’re completely befuddled, you may need to go back to step 1 or 4.

If doing this process on your own feels overwhelming, email me to chat about how we can work together to communicate your Big Vision.

Photo by me.